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Suffered a Loss. Pandemic. God, Do you Hear Me?

by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/16/20

Times are overwhelming, to say the least. We're all getting through the days as best we can, charting the unknown. Many of us feel scared, sad, frustrated, anxious and more. It's hard to see the hope sometimes. Being the "Pollyanna" I am, I find hope every day in things like nature, counting my blessings, my family, etc. because it fuels me and makes me feel stronger.

There are those meltdowns, too. Moments when everything seems so surreal and life is barely recognizable. That's when my emotions take on a life of their own and force me to stop and, well... melt down.

It's during those times I need God the most. When I'm feeling like the world is upside down, missing my loved ones and struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I call on God. I cry out to God. I whisper to God: Please help me. Help us. Help the world.

God, do you hear me?

I can only imagine how you must feel if you've suffered a miscarriage through all this chaos and fear. Many of you may be alone, separated from the ones you need most. You're grieving the loss of your child and perhaps someone else in your life, too. Miscarrying is so much to bear on its own. Compounded with this terrible virus and isolation, I can only guess how difficult it is for you to cope.

Cope and Hope. Just one letter makes all the difference.

I wish had something to offer you that felt more concrete, but I don't. You have my support and empathy. What I want to share is how my faith got me through my miscarriage and divorce (years ago), severe panic attacks, feelings of isolation and isolating myself. My faith was (and is) my life jacket through every painful loss or situation I've experienced. If it weren't for the strength I received from God, I don't know how I would have gotten through the loss of my mother. The angels were a huge help, too. Still are.

To me faith is believing in something bigger than you and I- our Creator who always watches over us, comforts and guides us. That doesn't mean bad things don't happen. What it means to me is those bad times are easier to get through if you have faith. Hopefully your faith in God, (maybe you call God by another name.), makes you feel less alone, less afraid, less isolated and more connected to your child, your loved ones...to the unseen love that surrounds you and wraps you up like a favorite blanket.

To all who have suffered a miscarriage, I am so sorry for your loss. If you've suffered the loss of a loved one during this pandemic, I am deeply sorry for that, too. Grieve as you must. Let your feelings out. If you're inclined, talk to God in your own way. To me, that's a beautiful form of prayer. Find hope in things...like that dawning of the day, a rainbow, some fresh air, beautiful birds, music you love, love others have for you even if it has to be from a distance right now and the promise of healing for yourself and the world.

My prayers, love and support go out to each and every one of you.

Stay safe and wishing you all of God's comfort, protection and blessings,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]

My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Ask Amy: Anniversary of #miscarriage brings on grief #miscarriageadvice #miscarriagesupport #miscarriagebook Click here to read.

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Miscarriage Quotes by Ellen M. DuBois

by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/15/20

These quotes are part of a new book I'm working on to help support women and their families who have suffered the pain, grief and isolation after miscarriage.

After years of writing various quotes to help my visitors navigate the waters after miscarriage, I've decided to put them into a helpful, relatable book. It's not complete and I'll let you know when it's available. The point is, when you read a quote you can relate to, you feel less alone. Support after miscarriage is so important, as is awareness and connection with others. My hope is when you read these quotes, you'll feel like "I get that." I want you to feel less alone.

It's a road none of us want to walk, but it's easier when we've got each other.

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]

My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Ask Amy: Anniversary of #miscarriage brings on grief #miscarriageadvice #miscarriagesupport #miscarriagebook Click here to read.

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To My Child In Heaven On Mother's Day

by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/09/20

You're always loved, always my child,
you live in my heart like
no other.
You're always missed,
never forgotten -
I'll always be
your mother.
Ellen M. DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com

I'm thinking of you all with love and light, Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]

My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Ask Amy: Anniversary of #miscarriage brings on grief #miscarriageadvice #miscarriagesupport #miscarriagebook Click here to read.

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#Repost: Things That Help When You're Overwhelmed

by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/08/20

I hope this helps. I know what it's like to feel so overwhelmed after miscarriage that you don't know where to start of if it's even possible to feel like yourself again. Seeing through the eyes of grief is difficult and nothing looks right. Nothing feels right. The best you can do is to allow yourself the time and space to grieve, taking things one day at a time.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm thinking of you all with love and light, Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]

My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Ask Amy: Anniversary of #miscarriage brings on grief #miscarriageadvice #miscarriagesupport #miscarriagebook Click here to read.

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Repost: #bereavedmothersday Bereaved Mother's Day

by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/08/20

Thinking of you all and sending you love on Bereaved Mother's Day.

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]

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