The Flame: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day October 15th :

The Flame: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day October 15th

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/15/19

We pray our babies are held, 
in your loving arms.
Blanketed by love, protected from harm.
We pray for families, in oceans of tears.
Please heal our wounded hearts, 
and ease all our fears.

We ask you to help us - 
we've suffered a loss,
of a little one, a baby- 
we carry that cross.

It's a heavy load, 
it wears on the soul.
Please send your grace.
Please make us feel whole.

Help us count our blessings, 
 a gift without cost.
Please help us to see them, 
when we feel cold and lost.

Please help us to live as you want us to live.
Despite wounded hearts, please help us to give.
A hug to a stranger, a hand just to hold,
a shoulder to lean on, some care for the soul.
As we light our candles 
on this special day,
please remind us the flame, 
never goes away.

Ellen M. DuBois,





Welcome to My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

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My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

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Welcome to My name is Ellen DuBois and I am deeply sorry for your loss. is a support site for women and their families who have suffered the pain, loss and grief after miscarriage. I respond personally to each email and post and have been doing so since 2006. It's an outreach to me. I try to connect and give whatever support I can to those who have walked the often lonely road after miscarriage. Why? I don't want anyone to feel as alone as I did over twenty years ago after I miscarried. I'm not a doctor. 
I'm just a woman who's lived through it and am here to listen, share and provide a space for you to share with each other, too.- Love & comfort to you, Ellen 
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