by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/02/20
We are living in such uncertain times. Suffering a miscarriage is terrible enough, never mind in the midst of a pandemic.
I remember when I miscarried. The world seemed skewed. Nothing felt right or normal. But now, nothing is right or normal. It will be, but for now, all we can do is hang on to hope and keep the faith.
I rewind back to the time when I lost my baby. I was four months pregnant. My sweet baby died. To this day I feel it. After my D&C, I was mostly numb. Nothing felt real except for the pain and emptiness. I was sad, angry, jealous, felt guilty and found it so difficult to get any footing.
If that were me today, in the middle of this storm we're in, I don't know how I'd do. I have to believe I'd make it through. But, I can't imagine the additional struggle of grieving during this world health crisis. I felt alone way back then and my heart goes out to anyone who has suffered a miscarriage, or any kind of loss, during this time. You are in my prayers and I hope you are able to cling to your faith, to those you love for support, to those you don't know but connect with online...I want you to know how sorry I am for your loss.
Some days you get by and others you barely do.
I get that.
Sending you my love, support and prayers.
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be: