Miscarriage: I'll Never Forget You (Repost) #miscarriage #miscarriagesupportby Ellen DuBois on 08/07/18
So many years have gone by since my miscarriage. They've been years filled with the highs and lows of life. Sometimes, I've been pushed to the limit, like when my mother passed away. I got to a point where I wondered how much I could take. But, the human spirit is amazing. Faith is astounding. I know I've been carried though some of my darkest, saddest times by my faith.
There were days my faith in God, the angels, etc., was the only thing casting light upon what seemed a dark, desolate road.
I felt very alone after my miscarriage. You may, too. Over time, I grew into my "new normal", learning to adjust to a life that for some time, felt like an uncomfortable shoe.
What I can tell you is this: Life went on after my miscarriage and more recently, after the loss of my mother. While I'm still struggling with the pain of losing my mom, the pain of losing my sweet baby to miscarriage is not nearly as raw as it used to be. That's only because of time. We are all different. We grieve, heal and feel in our own ways. But, I never forgot my baby. That would be impossible. I'll always love my child. That will be forever.
If you're stuck in the depths of grieving your little one, I am so sorry for your loss. I want you to know you'll feel more like yourself one day. I can't tell you when, but it will happen. Please don't place a time frame on your grief and healing. Hang on to your faith and believe you'll feel relief one day- when it's right for you. Allow yourself to feel what you must and if anyone dismisses your loss, you don't have to listen to them. It's sad, but it happens.
You're going to be okay. You will get through this. And, like me, you'll probably always feel a very deep love for the baby you never held but always loved.
You have every right to.
Love and Light,
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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Love & comfort to you, Ellen
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