Miscarriage: "Finding comfort after miscarriage."by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/19/11
I just wanted to tell you how much your website has been helping me. i had amiscarriage alittle over a week ago. I feel like it was a month ago but sadly its just been a week. I have a wonderful husband and 2 yr old daughter and the best family. They have been trying to support?console me the best way they know how. Unfortunately they just don't really get what I am going through, that is where you come in. i am usually not the type of person to get outside help when dealing with my problems but this has just almost been more than i can handle.After finding your website i feel like I am not alone. I know miscarriages happen all the time and shame on me for being one of those people that took getting pregnant for granted. Now that this has happened I feel like my mind is a broken record and i just ramble on and on(kind of like now) but since finding your website I find comfort reading other peoples storys> knowing the feelings I am having are ok. that i am not a crazy person. Like now it is 1:30 in the morning and my mind wont stop spinning. and here i am back at your website finding comfort. So thank you!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry for your loss, and no, you are not alone in your feelings. It's so overwhelming that your mind can become like a record- spinning and spinning and spinning.
I felt the same way, and as you've read, many others have, too. When you've lived it, and I wish nobody had to, it's as if you need to connect with those who have experienced it to feel understood. No matter how supportive family and friends are, (and thank God for that), unless you're reading the words of, or talking to somebody who has felt the emptiness and ache after a miscarriage, you don't feel like people 'get you'.
Although I am sorry you had to find this site, I am grateful you did. It's hard enough to go through losing a baby to miscarriage and feeling so isolated in your grief. A little help from those who care and know is here through our shared experiences of loss.
I guess through the pain, there's a light. Sometimes we don't see it right away. Maybe it's because we are human and our tears cloud our vision. But, during those times when you're feeling most alone and stumble across a site like this one, at least there's a bit of light, a bit of hope and comfort.
Please take care of YOU and give yourself permission to feel & heal. (I know it must be tough to find any time for you with a two-year-old, but I pray you can.)
You are always welcome here. I'm here to listen, to help if I can, and those who have shared their feelings certainly know the road you are walking. We all are bound by this and I believe it gives people added strength to get through those times when you just don't know which end is up.
That, and a whole lot of faith.
Love and Light,