Miscarriage Fallout During Covid
by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/13/20
The world seems like it's upside down and you're also reeling from miscarrying. How do you cope? The fallout from losing a baby to miscarriage is huge. I remember feeling so overwhelmed- and that was not during a pandemic.
I use the term "miscarriage fallout" because that's what I believe you go through. There are tons of emotions to process and the grief you're feeling can be so consuming.
So, how do you cope with all of it?
While I don't have any kind of magic answer, I believe connection to others who have lived it and leaning on God and your angels for support is extremely helpful. While I know it's not the time to find an in person support group, online support exists and helps. There are books out there to assist you in navigating through life after miscarriage. Online connections have been a source of support for years. I know because I created this website many years ago and people have vented, shared and connected through it.
I understand I'm not familiar with your faith. I can only attest to my own. There were times I felt like it was so dark and I didn't know where or how to find any light. Life felt blank and devoid of anything but grief for some time. However, my faith in God, the angels, the afterlife, in Jesus- this helped me so much during my most desperate times. I'd cry and ask God for help. I asked my angels to help me through panic attacks and more. My faith and yours may be different, but if you believe in something bigger than yourself, it helps.
Times are tough, but I want to spread the message that you will come through all of this on the other side. I know your grief has to be felt and when you're feeling overwhelmed by it, please give yourself permission to feel, step away into a peaceful place and just be. You need and deserve time to heal and when you feel isolated even more because of Covid, feelings are compounded and magnified.
Some deep breaths, some fresh air, some time spent with God will help you regain a sense of balance- a sense of self.
My prayers are with you and I am so sorry for your loss. Please hang in there.
Love and light to you,
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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