I'm Doing the Best I Can
by Ellen M. DuBois on 08/15/19
Your best is good enough. I know what it's like to feel like you should be happy...but it's like an invisible weight is on your shoulders when you're grieving. After I miscarried, there were times when I wanted to feel the joy at a family gathering, birthday, or over the holidays. There were times I did...but, I carried a sadness with me that only time could lessen. Sometimes, I just couldn't get it together and I grew to realize it was all a part of grieving.
So many years have passed for me and I still find myself thinking about the baby I loved with all my heart and never held. I still miss him and will always feel connected to him. I'm much better now at allowing joy into my life. But, back then, I really struggled. If you feel anything like this, please know you're not alone.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm keeping you in my prayers.
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be: