by Ellen M. DuBois on 05/07/21
I know many of you may have mixed emotions with Mother's Day coming up this Sunday. I know I do. I think about the baby I lost so many years ago and how I've always longed to be a mother to a child on this earth. It's always been a bittersweet day for me and for millions of others who feel like I do. My heart goes out to you. To those of you who miscarried and have children, I know you think about the baby you lost, even though you love the child or children you have. There's a special place in your heart for each child, whether on earth or in Heaven. My heart goes out to you, too.
I also know what it's like to have my own mother pass away. She's in Heaven and I miss her so much. Mother's Day carries with it a particular sting not having her here. I have so many wonderful memories of her and feel her near me, but it's not the same. I long to call her up, talk, see her, HUG her. But, that's not happening and it hurts. Even if it sounds crazy, I still talk to my mother. I think I always will. I don't mind admitting that to you. It's like she's here but I can't see her...I feel her loving energy around me.
If you are hurting for any reason as Mother's Day approaches, I want you to know you are not alone. I relate to you on many levels and if I don't, someone else does. We support each other simply by letting each other know you're not alone. If you're reading this post and you get the feeling that someone out there gets you, I'm grateful. That's what it's all about. When times are tough it's good to know there are people out there who have at least a glimmer of understanding.
I do celebrate all the wonderful mothers out there. Mothers to children on this earth and to children in Heaven. I celebrate those who act as motherly role models to a child or to many children. I celebrate foster mothers, grandmothers, aunts and Godmothers. I celebrate all those who nuture like mothers.
You are all amazing and my heart, thoughts and prayers are with you. I celebrate YOU.
Love and Light,
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be: