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I Feel Your Love

by Ellen M. DuBois on 02/11/20



You flew
into the Heavens.
You shine bright
like stars.
I feel your light
when I miss you most.
Evening comes,
the ache surfaces.
I feel your light
enter the cracks
of my heart.
I feel your love.
Ellen M. DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com


 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

One Life Is Not Replaceable With Another

by Ellen M. DuBois on 01/23/20



This is true and I hope through awareness, people gain a greater understanding of the power words have. They can heal and they can hurt.

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Grief: Like An Invisible Illness

by Ellen M. DuBois on 01/23/20



I felt this way whenever I've grieved. After my miscarriage, the loss of my grandparents, and most recently the loss of my mother, (5 years but it feels like yesterday sometimes). My heart and prayers go out to all who are grieving. I am so sorry for your loss. Love and light, Ellen

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

A Million Times #miscarriage #repost #griefquotes

by Ellen M. DuBois on 01/14/20



I thought of you a million times today. When I looked at the clouds, felt a breeze, saw the beauty a flower holds. I know I'll think of you a million times tomorrow, too.- Ellen DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com

Love to all who have suffered a miscarriage. I know what your heart feels.

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

The New Year: Times

by Ellen M. DuBois on 12/28/19

The new year is here. Thinking of you all and sending love and prayers for joy, strength, healing.



 

Love and light,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Every Light On The Christmas Tree

by Ellen M. DuBois on 12/18/19



I get it and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love and light,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Missing You At Christmas #miscarriage #Miscarriagesupport

by Ellen M. DuBois on 12/10/19



It seems all emotions are heightened at Christmas- from joy to sorrow. It's a bit easier for me now that time's gone by since my miscarriage. Decades. But, I remember those first years. I remember what it felt like to wish my baby were with me celebrating Christmas. I remember the tears, trying to keep it together, wanting to be happy but feeling like I had a wet blanket over my shoulders.


The weight of grief was almost unbearable. 

My family, friends and faith got me through. I cried, prayed and cried some more. I still loved Christmas and what it meant, but I found myself stuck in grief and longing. I had an ache inside that nothing took away.

Time was what I needed so I could heal. It didn't happen overnight. Years went by and I began to feel more like myself again, but I never forgot my baby and to this day I miss him.

So, if you're feeling this way please know you're not alone. You're allowed to grieve and you're allowed to feel joy, too. It's not easy when your emotions run the spectrum, but hang on, keep the faith and know you'll come out on the other side. 

I know I'll always feel my baby in my heart, just like I do my mother now that she's passed away. I accept my sadness and embrace the joy. Although not an easy road, it's one you don't have to travel alone.

Love and Light to you,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

The Holidays and Grief After Miscarriage (And a Book That Will Help) #repost #miscarriage

by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/30/19



Hello everyone. My name is Ellen DuBois, author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. I'm sharing this post about grief during the holiday season and a bit about my book in case you or someone you love is struggling with grieving after miscarriage- especially during this time of year. It's a beautiful time, but when you're grieving it can be very tough to get through. There are so many conflicting emotions and expectations.

I know it's one of the most difficult things to go through because I've lived it. 

With Christmas here, many women (and their families) struggle with feelings of loss, sadness and isolation. You may be trying to get into the holiday spirit but find you're bouncing between tears, putting on your best "happy face" and trying to get things done, leaving you feeling sad and exhausted. If this sounds like you, I know what you're living and I am so sorry for your loss and what you're going through. 

I'm here to tell you that although it's very hard right now, over time you will come out on the other side of this. Please don't lose hope and give yourself permission and time to grieve and heal. 

During the Christmas and holiday season, it can be challenging to find the time. I'm here to suggest that giving yourself a few minutes, whenever you can, to decompress is so important. If you need to step away from gift wrapping, shopping or a gathering for a few minutes, please do. If you're at a Christmas party and feel like you might "break down",  try to give yourself permission to step out for bit of air. We all need that sometimes. 

You've suffered such a painful loss. You need time to heal and putting pressure on yourself to "get everything right" and "show up happy" can be way too much for you. By giving yourself permission to grieve, perhaps staying home from the party this year, (or whatever), you're taking care of yourself and allowing yourself to heal from a very real loss. If you have to be somewhere, (I know family/friend gatherings can be very important), try promising yourself that you'll give yourself some "me time" later, to rest, cry, journal, get lost in a movie under a cozy blanket...to just be.   

I don't believe you'll ever forget your baby or your loss, but I do know from personal experience that you'll heal over time and begin to recognize yourself again. You'll start to feel like you again and the tears will be less frequent. It took me quite a while. Please don't lose heart.

Here is a description of my book: "I Never Held You is a supportive book about miscarriage, grief, healing and recovery. It is helpful for those who have just suffered a miscarriage, or for women who lost their babies years ago when there was little, if any, support. Join author Ellen DuBois as she shares her journey- from the initial shock of learning her baby had passed away to reaching a place of healing and accepting her new normal. She never forgot her unborn baby and he continues to touch her life in countless ways. Dr. Linda Backman contributed the foreword and several chapters as both a licensed grief counselor and a woman who survived the loss of her son Adam, born at 26 weeks who lived for about an hour. Her heartbreaking loss is what led her to become a grief counselor and more. Also included in this book are four touching stories from women who miscarried. The second half of the book focuses on things the author found helpful in healing. She says: "Take what works for you, leave what doesn't, and remember to take one day at a time. There is no time frame on grief. Your loss matters, and so do you."- Ellen M. DuBois, Author, I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery

If you need to share, vent, feel heard, that's what this site is for. It's been online since 2006. Women from all over the world, of many ages and backgrounds have have posted here. Some have found comfort and felt far less alone just reading through some of the posts. 

I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. If you feel my book will help you or someone you love, I pray it does. Take what feels right to you from it. We all grieve and heal differently. My hope is that you find your way to a place of healing.

Wishing you joy, peace, healing and comfort during the holiday season and all year through. - Ellen 


 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

I Felt Very Alone In My Grief #repost #miscarriage #miscarriagesupport

by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/24/19



I know what it's like to feel very alone in my grief. There were so many times I felt like people didn't quite get what I was living. They felt bad and tried their best to understand, but I felt isolated, even when surrounded by people. It didn't stay that way. Over time I connected with others who had lived the same, I felt more understood and far less isolated. So did they. That's when I know how important reaching out to others was- still is. #miscarriage #reachout #miscarriagehelp #miscarriagesupport #miscarriageawareness #pregnancyloss #babyloss #isolation #connection #feelingalone #talkaboutit #missingyou #missingyouquotes #grief #griefquotes #griefsupport #ineverheldyou #miscarriagequotes I'm thinking of you all with love and light, Ellen 


 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

You will always be the dream that stayed inside

by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/15/19




So many years, thoughts, dreams have passed since I miscarried. Life has gone on, changes, seasons, loves, career goals. I've accomplished things and there are things I wish to accomplish. I have some regrets, have made both good and bad decisions and have learned and grown. 

There have been unexpected curveballs and twists in life and I've found my feet upon paths I never expected to walk. I've not traveled paths I expected to.

My faith has grown and so has the realization that life is so precious. I always thought so, but more so now. Time does that. Loss does that.

I've learned I could survive the loss of my mother. Something I never, ever wanted to think about. I still don't, but I'm here and it's been over four years. 

And, to this day I remember and love the baby I lost and never got to hold. I still picture what life would be like had he survived. Somewhere in my mind there's an alternate universe where I "see" life, birthdays, Christmases, the firsts of everything with my child. I know it's not real, but it's there, tucked away in a special part of my mind and my heart.

To my sweet baby in Heaven, you will always be the dream that stayed inside.




 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Repost: A Letter to My Baby In Heaven #miscarriage #pregnancyloss #miscarriagesupport

by Ellen M. DuBois on 11/05/19



Dear Baby of Mine,


I think about you so often. I decided to write you a letter. Something tells me you already know what I'm writing to you.

I loved you since the moment I knew you. I never felt a love so strong or so deep. It's unlike any other kind of love I experienced.

Knowing you were growing inside of me made me feel a connection to you that words can't describe. I remember patting my belly gently, talking to you and sometimes, I'd smile just knowing you were there, safe and sound.

I had so many wishes, hopes and dreams for you. I was so excited to see you for the very first time and hold you in my arms.

Well, one day, all of that went away. You had to go back to Heaven and I bet it's because you were too good for this earth. I've heard that expression before and something tells me it's true. I've also heard about soul lessons, and I think you came into my life to teach me about mine.

I'll never know what God's full plan is for me, but I know you coming into my life was part of it. I also know you leaving was another part of it...but, it hurt unlike anything I've felt or ever will. 

You taught me so much, like how much stronger I was than I thought. You taught me that love transcends everything, even death. You taught me how precious life is and to treasure every moment because it can change in an instant. You taught me that even though we are not together here, we are always connected- it's REAL. You taught me that my feelings should be expressed, not held in. You taught me that tears help to heal wounds and holding them in isn't good for me. You taught me how to take my pain and turn it around to help others. You taught me that everything is not in my control and how important it is to have faith in God for support. There were times I didn't know how I'd get through the day, and faith carried me. God carried me. The angels helped me and I bet you did, too.

I pictured Jesus holding you in his arms so many times. That comforted me while my arms ached to hold you.

I know it's been a long time since I lost you, but I have never, ever stopped loving you. 

You taught me that whether in Heaven or on earth, I will always be your mother.

Thank you for teaching me so many things and for every other way you touched my life and heart. 

I Will Love You Forever,

Mom

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Miscarriage: Your Time With Me Was So Brief

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/24/19





Your time with me was so brief. My love for you is eternal.- Ellen M. DuBois

This is how I feel about the baby I carried and lost. I miscarried at about 4 months and have never, ever stopped loving my baby. 

I've found this is true for so many of us and want you to know you're not alone. No matter how far along you were. No matter how long it's been. No matter how briefly that little, beautiful life touched your own.

Love and light to you,

Ellen

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

I Never Held You: A supportive book about miscarriage

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/20/19

I Never Held You is a supportive book about miscarriage, grief, healing and recovery. It is helpful for those who have just suffered a miscarriage, or for women who lost their babies years ago when there was little, if any, support. Join author Ellen DuBois as she shares her journey- from the initial shock of learning her baby had passed away to reaching a place of healing and accepting her new normal. She never forgot her unborn baby and he continues to touch her life in countless ways. Dr. Linda Backman contributed the foreword and several chapters as both a licensed grief counselor and a woman who survived the loss of her son Adam, born at 26 weeks who lived for about an hour. Her heartbreaking loss is what led her to become a grief counselor and more.

Also included in this book are four touching stories from women who miscarried.

The second half of the book focuses on things the author found helpful in healing. She says: "Take what works for you, leave what doesn't, and remember to take one day at a time. There is no time frame on grief. Your loss matters, and so do you."

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Years ago I lost my baby Alex to miscarriage.

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/16/19



Years ago I lost my baby Alex to miscarriage. His loving spirit changed my life. The pain after losing him changed my perspective. My feet were on a path I didn't want or know how to walk on.

Over time I learned how little there was, (over 25 years ago), available to support women and their families. I knew that had to change and 11 years after my miscarriage, I felt Alex's spirit nudging me to do something to help increase awareness...

Even if only a little.

I wrote a book and started a website. I healed to the point where I could use my pain to try and create something to contribute to awareness.

Adversity into positive.

And now, all these years later, I see women supporting each other, men and families, too. I thank God our very real losses are recognized and validated. I am moved so deeply at this powerful wave of light in honor of our babies.

We have come a long way since the 1990's. (And before.) Each year I hold all of you in my prayers. I see awareness and support growing. We are heard. Our babies are remembered and loved beyond measure.

Love to you all and your babies. I am so sorry for your loss.

#miscarriage #miscarriageawareness #youarenotalone #loss #pregnancyandinfantloss #waveoflight #remberingourbabies #pregnancyloss #babyloss #pinkandblue #youarenotalone #ineverheldyou #grief #awareness #supporteachother

 

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Wave of Light October 2019

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/15/19



Thinking of my sweet baby in Heaven and all of you.
#waveoflight #waveoflight2019 #miscarriage #babyloss #october #pregnancyandinfantloss #thejourney #theroad #healing #healingquotes #pailrd #rememberingourbabies #PregnancyLossandInfantLossAwareness #infantloss #pregnancyloss #creatingawareness #yourlossmatters #ineverheldyou #miscarriagesupport #babylosssupport #helpingeachother #womenhelpingwomen #pregnancy #women #grief
 — with Ellen DuBois in South Easton, Massachusetts.



The Flame:

We pray our babies are held, 
in your loving arms.
Blanketed by love, protected from harm.
We pray for families, in oceans of tears.
Please heal our wounded hearts, 
and ease all our fears.

We ask you to help us - 
we've suffered a loss,
of a little one, a baby- 
we carry that cross.

It's a heavy load, 
it wears on the soul.
Please send your grace.
Please make us feel whole.

Help us count our blessings, 
 a gift without cost.
Please help us to see them, 
when we feel cold and lost.

Please help us to live as you want us to live.
Despite wounded hearts, please help us to give.
A hug to a stranger, a hand just to hold,
a shoulder to lean on, some care for the soul.
As we light our candles 
on this special day,
please remind us the flame, 
never goes away.

Ellen M. DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com

 

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

The Flame: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day October 15th

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/15/19





We pray our babies are held, 
in your loving arms.
Blanketed by love, protected from harm.
We pray for families, in oceans of tears.
Please heal our wounded hearts, 
and ease all our fears.

We ask you to help us - 
we've suffered a loss,
of a little one, a baby- 
we carry that cross.

It's a heavy load, 
it wears on the soul.
Please send your grace.
Please make us feel whole.

Help us count our blessings, 
 a gift without cost.
Please help us to see them, 
when we feel cold and lost.

Please help us to live as you want us to live.
Despite wounded hearts, please help us to give.
A hug to a stranger, a hand just to hold,
a shoulder to lean on, some care for the soul.
As we light our candles 
on this special day,
please remind us the flame, 
never goes away.

Ellen M. DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com

 

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Pregnancy and Infant Loss: Raising Awareness

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/10/19



My heart goes out to all who have lost a child. October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. The 15th of October is pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day. None of us want to belong to this group, yet we find our feet upon the same path. Together, we create a support group that reaches around the world because of the Internet, awareness, less isolation and places to share our feelings. Back when I lost my baby at 4 months, I searched for places to turn, books to read...anything. There wasn't much 25 plus years ago. It doesn't make the loss any easier, but the support that's available now because of raised awareness, the Internet, more books, more talking about it- well, these things make it a bit less isolating. As we honor the lives of our babies who left their footprints upon our hearts, may we also remember to reach out to others in need and ask for help if you need it. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Love and Light to you, Ellen #miscarriage #babyloss #pregnancyloss #miscarriagesupport #october15 #pregnancyandinfantlossawarenessmonth #rememberingourbabies2019 #womenhelpingwomen #youarenotalone #yourlossmatters #miscarriagehelp.com #ineverheldyou

 

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

October: Pregancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/05/19



October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
It's the month
we remember our babies who
crossed over to the other side.
We honor their brief stay
that foreve changedour lives 

October...it's a month we support each other both in person and around the world.

Sending you all love, light and prayers,
Ellen

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

I'll Always Love and Miss You. #miscarriage #miscarriageawareness

by Ellen M. DuBois on 10/02/19



This is preganancy and infant loss awareness month and I know it's a difficult time for many. We remember our babies and share in that pain together. We also honor our little one's brief but life changing stay with us. We lean on each other for support. We collectively remember our babies on October 15th, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.


I'm sure it's a club none of us want to belong to. Yet, we find ourselves in it. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a baby, any kind of baby loss, is beyond painful. It really does change you. I've lived with that change for over 25 years. That's a long time, and there are still times it seems like yesterday.

I believe my baby and I are connected by love. It's so strong that time, space, even death does not separate us. The beautiful soul who left my life has stayed with me in a spiritual sense. My baby will always live in my heart and in the ethers.

I know it's not the way I wanted it to be- who does? I know the ache you feel and how it sometimes creeps up on you at the most unexpected times.

I believe we support each other as our babies support us from Heaven. We are surrounded by their love and that's what keeps us close to them.

My thoughts and prayers are with each one of you. When it feels like you are alone, please know there are many others that care about you and are familiar with the path you're walking.

I'm one of them.

Love and Light,

Ellen

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

Unpredictable Grief: You're Not Alone

by Ellen M. DuBois on 09/26/19



I remember feeling so overcome with grief after my miscarriage. There were times I'd feel the sting of tears without any warning. I'd be "fine", (as fine as I could be), and wham, I'd be crying.


Grief is a journey and it's one you're not alone on. At first, I didn't find much comfort in that. I hurt too much and looking back, I had to feel it. It was a terribly lonely place to be and was often dark. I felt isolated and drained.

As time passed, I began to write about my feelings and reach out to others. Not a whole lot, but when the Internet was relatively new, chat and support groups started popping up. As I became aware of how much they helped me, I created my own site, this one, back in 2006. I realized even more how none of us are alone on our journey after miscarriage and how we draw strength from each other. 

My faith also carried me through some of the darkest days of my life. I thank God for that.

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find some comfort in knowing there are people out there who get what you're living. 

I know I do.

Love and Light to you,

Ellen

 

 

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. [email protected]


My book, I Never Held You, is mentioned in this column. More importantly, it addresses how difficult anniversary dates can be:

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Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois and I am deeply sorry for your loss. MiscarriageHelp.com is a support site for women and their families who have suffered the pain, loss and grief after miscarriage. I respond personally to each email and post and have been doing so since 2006. It's an outreach to me. I try to connect and give whatever support I can to those who have walked the often lonely road after miscarriage. Why? I don't want anyone to feel as alone as I did over twenty years ago after I miscarried. I'm not a doctor. 
I'm just a woman who's lived through it and am here to listen, share and provide a space for you to share with each other, too.- Love & comfort to you, Ellen 
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