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I do send my love to Heaven and how beautiful it would be if I could visit with my sweet baby. Although I know it's not possible to do physically, I feel a connection to my baby that will never go away. I talk to him. Tell him how much I love him and he'll always be in my heart. It's like an invisible thread keeps us connected. A thread that bridges Heaven and earth. #miscarriage #reachout #miscarriagehelp #miscarriagesupport #miscarriageawareness #pregnancyloss #babyloss #isolation #connection #feelingalone #talkaboutit #missingyou #missingyouquotes #grief #griefquotes #griefsupport #ineverheldyou #miscarriagequotes I'm thinking of you all with love and light, Ellen 

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I know what it's like to feel very alone in my grief. There were so many times I felt like people didn't quite get what I was living. They felt bad and tried their best to understand, but I felt isolated, even when surrounded by people. It didn't stay that way. Over time I connected with others who had lived the same, I felt more understood and far less isolated. So did they. That's when I know how important reaching out to others was- still is. #miscarriage #reachout #miscarriagehelp #miscarriagesupport #miscarriageawareness #pregnancyloss #babyloss #isolation #connection #feelingalone #talkaboutit #missingyou #missingyouquotes #grief #griefquotes #griefsupport #ineverheldyou #miscarriagequotes I'm thinking of you all with love and light, Ellen 

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I hope this helps. I know what it's like to feel so overwhelmed after miscarriage that you don't know where to start of if it's even possible to feel like yourself again. Seeing through the eyes of grief is difficult and nothing looks right. Nothing feels right. The best you can do is to allow yourself the time and space to grieve, taking things one day at a time.

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I know I will always love and remember the baby I lost to miscarriage. It doesn't matter how many years have passed. There will always be a part of me that's with my child in Heaven. It's a connection I can feel and it'll always be there. 

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From one who has lived it, I know how exhausting emotions can be. I felt so many after my miscarriage- I couldn't keep track. I knew I was sad. I felt incredibly tired. I struggled to keep it together and that was exhausting.

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To all fathers who lost a baby to miscarriage, we know you hurt, too. You are not alone. Sometimes you may feel overlooked, but you are thought of Father's Day and all other days. I am so sorry for your loss.

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I get this. When I heard those words, "Why don't you grow up and get over it", it felt like I was punched in the gut. No kidding...it really happened.

For anyone who has ever heard words like this after suffering the heartbreak of miscarriage, I am so sorry. I know words hurt.  

I learned that people often say things with the best intentions, but don't think it through. They don't realize how powerful (and painful) their well intended words can be. The person who said this to me was trying to "help" move me forward, but it wasn't right. Not for me, not for you. I had to live through my grief, ride the waves, feel the overload. It was a terrible place to be, and what I needed to hear were words of support...or simply silence. Just knowing someone was by my side who allowed me to feel helped a great deal. 

So, if someone tells you to "get over it", they have no clue what you're living.

Pray if you're inclined. I found it helped. Go easy on yourself and if you ever hear words that hurt, please try to let them go. (I know it's not easy.) Many people can't understand what they don't know. I'm not excusing it...I'm trying to help you. People need to think before they say something to a woman who lost her baby to miscarriage. Awareness is key. Awareness leads to compassion.

I wish you healing, comfort and love. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know you're not alone. Love and Light, Ellen

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I get this. It's taken years for me to accept my loss as part of my life. I had to ride the waves of pain and grief in order to come to a place of healing. Healing did not mean I forgot about my baby. 

I couldn't. 

I grew into accepting my new normal and was able to function again. I went from walking around in what felt like a bubble to taking in what life had to offer and moving forward...slowly. It was a one step at a time journey and I'm still walking. 

I never will forget the baby I lost or what it took to get me to the place I am today. I had to feel the pain in order to fuel climbing the mountain back to myself.

I wish you healing, comfort and love. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know you're not alone. Love and Light, Ellen

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To all those who feel this way, please know you're not alone and I hope this sentiment helps you to cope. It took me a while to get there, but I did. Love to you, Ellen

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These quotes are part of a new book I'm working on to help support women and their families who have suffered the pain, grief and isolation after miscarriage. 

After years of writing various quotes to help my visitors navigate the waters after miscarriage, I've decided to put them into a helpful, relatable book. It's not complete and I'll let you know when it's available. The point is, when you read a quote you can relate to, you feel less alone. Support after miscarriage is so important, as is awareness and connection with others. My hope is when you read these quotes, you'll feel like "I get that." I want you to feel less alone.

It's a road none of us want to walk, but it's easier when we've got each other.

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Thinking of you all and sending you love on Bereaved Mother's Day.

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These quotes are part of a new book I'm working on to help support women and their families who have suffered the pain, grief and isolation after miscarriage. 

After years of writing various quotes to help my visitors navigate the waters after miscarriage, I've decided to put them into a helpful, relatable book. It's not complete and I'll let you know when it's available. The point is, when you read a quote you can relate to, you feel less alone. Support after miscarriage is so important, as is awareness and connection with others. My hope is when you read these quotes, you'll feel like "I get that." I want you to feel less alone.

It's a road none of us want to walk, but it's easier when we've got each other.

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I've come to the conclusion that I'll always remember the baby I lost, the day I miscarried and feel the sting whenever the anniversary date/month rolls around. That doesn't make me abnormal or weird. It doesn't mean I'm dwelling on the past or living in it. It simply means that I experienced a very difficult loss many years ago. I miscarried. I lost my baby. How could I ever forget that? 

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It's not easy to find the strength or motivation to make sure you're doing okay after suffering a heartbreaking loss, but every little bit helps. It doesn't have to be a lot. Just some deep breaths is good enough. Your loss matters. You matter.

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Hello,

I spent some time this morning updating my author page on Amazon. You know how a thought hits and you decide to do it? Well, that's what happened. I wasn't expecting to do an update, but something urged me to do so. So...here's what it says and I invite you to visit and follow. It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! Ellen (The URL is at the bottom of the post.)

Ellen DuBois wrote I Never Held You, a book about miscarriage, grief, healing and recovery because she didn't want women to feel as alone as she did after her miscarriage over twenty-years ago. It was a "pre-Internet" world, and trying to find something to help with her grief seemed impossible. In her book, Ellen shares her journey- from the initial shock of learning her baby had passed away to reaching a place of healing and accepting her new normal. She never forgot her unborn baby and he continues to touch her life in countless ways. Dr. Linda Backman contributed several helpful chapters as both a licensed grief counselor and a woman who survived the loss of her son Adam, born at 26 weeks who lived for about an hour. Additionally, there are four touching stories from women who lived through the pain of miscarriage.

The second half on the book focuses on things the author found helpful in healing after miscarriage. She says: "Take what works for you, leave what doesn't, and remember to take one day at a time. There is no time frame on grief and your loss matters, as do you."

Her fiction book, Jackie's Heart, is also available on Amazon in ebook format. It's romance packed with suspense. It's a story of love, loss, grief, overcoming the odds and a taking a chance on love again. It's been called a real "page turner", filled with twists and unexpected turns. Although her first published work of fiction, this editorial review says: "Can't miss" formula,...combining tragedy with romance & throwing in enough criminal activities to build and hold the reader's interest." -- The Sunday Enterprise, August 31, 2003 Zel Levin, Easton author's book combines tragedy, romance

Ms. DuBois has also been published by: Blue Mountain Arts with her poem "I Whispered a Prayer or Two" as an inspirational greeting card and included in their gift book, "Sisters"; is a contributing author in More God Allows U-Turns (Barbour Publishing/Promise Press); Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders, Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News (Hunterhouse Publishing) and Soul Matters for Teens (Thomas Nelson Inc.).

Ellen DuBois resides in Massachusetts with her fiance and rescue dog, Cooper. She's working on her next book, teaching piano, enjoys photography, making jewelry and "learning something new every day on this journey called life." She welcomes you to visit her miscarriage support site at miscarriagehelp.com and her personal/author site at ellendubois.com.

Check out my #author page at this easy to remember url! amazon.com/author/ellendubois via @amazon Thank you, Ellen

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I believe this is true. With every mile I've traveled on the road to healing after losing my baby to miscarriage, after losing my mother, (and others), I've come to learn that grief stays with us, but we learn to live with it so we are able to keep going and experiencing life. The remembering, the connection and the love doesn't go away. I think it's because we've loved so hard and strong. And love never dies. So how can we stop missing those we've loved and lost? Impossible to me. I don't think we can or should. Forever in our hearts. Love lives there. #miscarriage #miscarriageawareness #awarenessiskey #ineverheldyou #grief #support #youarenotalone #1in4women #letshelpeachother #iamsosorryforyourloss #miscarriagehelp #remember #alwaysinmyheart

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Dear Baby in Heaven,

Love and support to you all. I've felt like this many times. My baby in Heaven, my mother...Love keeps us connected and I believe Heaven is real. I've found great comfort in that for a long time.

You are not alone.

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