Wonder. #miscarriage #miscarriagesupportby Ellen DuBois on 03/07/17
"Sometimes I just sit and wonder...What would life be like if you were here?"
That's been part of my life story for twenty five years. That's how long it's been since I miscarried. That little one I loved so much and never got to hold left footprints on my heart that will be there for the rest of my life.
That's just the way it is.
The wound is not nearly as raw as it was for the first few months...no, make that years, after my miscarriage. Back then I was easily thrown into a tailspin at the mere mention of "baby" anything.
It was so tough and to any of you living through this now, my heart goes out to you. I know the ache so well.
Although my baby has remained a part of my life all these years later, I want you to know the sting lessens over time. You don't forget, but it gets easier to breathe. The love you have for your baby remains with you, but as time passes you'll find it takes less effort to keep yourself together. If you're in a really scary place, please know I've been there, along with millions of other women. You are not alone and it won't always feel as dark.
One day, you'll probably find yourself at a place similar to mine. Oh, the ache will still be tucked away in your heart, but it will be tempered by time. You will still remember, feel, love and wonder...what would life be like if you were here?
Sending you my love and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Please hang in there.
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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Love & comfort to you, Ellen
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