Silent Grief :

Silent Grief

by Ellen DuBois on 03/20/17

Grief is exhausting. Silent grief even more so.

What do I mean by silent grief?

It's the grief you hide. It's grieving the loss of a baby nobody saw. It's feeling such a loss so palpable it often consumes you- while others often seem dismissive.

When you suffer a miscarriage, it's not only a "medical" event. It is the loss of a baby- a baby you loved, had plans for and envisioned a life with.

I get it. I know what it's like to try to get through the day smiling while you're crying inside. I know what it's like to want to talk about your loss but get the feeling others are wondering why you're not "over it". After all, you didn't even get to see or hold your baby...right?

Wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth.

I want you to know, as you read this and perhaps are grieving in silence, that you're not alone. Your loss was real and so is your grief. 

Please reach out. You have every right to feel, to grieve and to heal. The road feels smoother when you have some support.

I'm here to give you whatever support I can and I'm sure there are others who not only want to lend their support, but could use yours, too.

We're in this together and your silent grief doesn't have to be so silent. 


Welcome to My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

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Love & comfort to you, Ellen

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