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Miscarriage: Take Time To Rest

by Ellen DuBois on 07/20/17

I know it may not be easy. Your life may be busy, filled with work, activities, things to do. The thing is, after a miscarriage, you're often exhausted- mentally, physically and spiritually.

I know I was and because I didn't rest, I ended up very sick for about half the summer.

Although that was a long time ago, I remember how wiped out I felt. Instead of resting, I busied myself as much as possible. I didn't want to slow down because when I did, I'd feel. When I felt, I cried. That cycle continued for quite a while.

I learned, after getting so run down I had to stay in bed, (with pneumonia), how important rest was. When I was in bed coughing and feeling generally miserable, the pain I was trying to run from also came to the surface. Without the ability to distract myself from it, I let the tears fall. I felt the pain, missed my baby, ached inside and felt so many other emotions I didn't want to feel because they hurt so much.

I learned that by giving yourself time to rest, you're giving yourself permission to feel and heal. You may doze off or you may cry for a while.  The important thing is to allow your mind, body and spirit to do whatever is necessary to help you heal. If there are feelings that need to come out, please let them. If you are so spent you need to close your eyes for a half-hour, please do it. Letting the "air out of the balloon" little by little gives your emotions a place to go. You're freeing them instead of letting them eat you  up inside. When you do that, you could end up like I did...in bed with pneumonia.  I don't want to see that happen to anyone.

Take time to rest. You deserve and need rest. Grief is exhausting. By resting, you give yourself time to recharge and heal.

God Bless,



Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

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Ellen M. DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery

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