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#Miscarriage and Emotional Triggers, #repost #miscarriagesupport

by Ellen DuBois on 12/02/17

This is a repost, but I wanted to share it with you again.

I didn't know what to watch last night so I browsed through Netflix and selected The Other Woman starring Natalie Portman. I've always liked her so I figured I'd watch it. Here's the storyline: "In Manhattan, twenty-two year-old Harvard lawyer Emilia Greenleaf has a crush on her boss, Jack Woolf, and they have an affair. Jack's marriage is a sham but his son, William, is his pride and joy. Emilia soon discovers she's pregnant, and Jack divorces his wife, Carolyn, in order to marry her. His son is poisoned against the partnership by his mother, and resented by his stepmother. Emilia, who has issues with her womanizer father, delivers Isabel but the baby dies. The marriage begins to suffer and William unexpectedly steps in to help."- Source IMDb

There's a scene in the movie where the character played by Portman goes on a baby loss/remembrance walk in Central Park under the advice of her friend.  Pink and blue balloons filled the air. Hundreds of people carried candles and wore heart shaped name tags. They joined together and walked in memory of their babies who passed away due to miscarriage, SIDS and more.

I was filled with emotion- unexpectedly. The scene struck my cords in a powerful way and I felt like one of the characters on that walk. Tears filled my eyes. I remembered my miscarriage, the ache for my baby, the terrible place I was in emotionally. I remembered everything- as if it happened yesterday.

He'd be 25 this year.

You never know when emotional trigger points are going to come crawling out of the woodwork. In my case, it was the scene in this movie. I didn't bet on feeling, if only for a few minutes, some of the raw pain I felt all those years ago.

But, I did.

The thing is, you don't know when something is going to trigger your feelings- ones you thought were resolved, buried, gone. If you find yourself in a situation where the sting you felt after your loss hits hard, please know you're not alone. Not at all.

You're not "abnormal" or any such thing if this happens to you. You're human.

I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you comfort and healing.

Love and Light, Ellen


Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

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Love & comfort to you, Ellen

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Comments (2)

1. Kayla said on 12/13/17 - 12:22PM
This post has really helped me the past few days. My husband and I found out back in October that we was expecting. I had my first OB appt on Nov 21st and our first ultrasound on Nov 22 where our lives changed for ever. It hasn’t even been a month since we was told our baby had earned its wings. The hurt that I feel has been so Undescribable. The triggers are everywhere and simple tasks like going to the store have become an emontional battle. This post has helped me self talk to myself to gain the courage to face the battles. Thank you for your page.
2. Ellen DuBois said on 12/13/17 - 01:11PM
Dear Kayla, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I'm glad you at least found some help in this post. I'll be thinking of you. Love and Light, Ellen

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