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With Every Snowflake...

by Ellen DuBois on 12/09/16



Thinking of you. I know the holiday season can be very difficult when you've suffered a miscarriage, or any loss. I know this from my own personal experience. I lost my little one so many years ago.and think of him to this day. I also think of my mother, who I miss so much.

There are no words...

Loss is loss and the pain, that invisible "thing" inside us, can really skew how we see the world. When Christmas time is here, all the beauty, joy, festivities, parties, lights and songs that once may have filled us with joy, make us cry. Maybe not all of the time, but lots of times.

I have been there and I'm so sorry if you're there now. I know it hurts. I know all the "would have beens" and "could have beens" running through your mind.

I take comfort in knowing my baby, my mother and others I've loved who are now in Heaven are near me all the time in spirit. Sometimes, they feel SO close to me. I get a "feeling" inside. I certainly feel my little one and my mother near. It's very real to me. As real as the pain from my losses.

"Each soul is as unique as a snowflake. Sometimes, when snow falls from the sky, I think of you. As snowflakes gently touch my face, it feels like kisses from Heaven."- Ellen DuBois

Perhaps they are.

Sending you all prayers for comfort and healing.

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.

Yes, this life is difficult.

by Ellen DuBois on 12/05/16



Yes, this life is difficult. All I can say is over time, the pain is balanced when joy is allowed to enter back into your heart. It's not easy, especially around holidays and anniversaries. I think it's important to allow yourself to feel- the good, the bad, the tears, the joy. All of it. It's your grief and we all experience it differently. You have the right to feel. You never forget. But, there comes a day when you find yourself smiling over something, it can be the smallest thing, and you realize there are still many smiles to be had in this life, even amidst the tears. - Ellen DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com


Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.

Sometimes, it's hard to feel "Merry"

by Ellen DuBois on 12/04/16



 

I get it. I remember how tough the Christmas following my miscarriage was. All I could think about was the baby I lost. I was consumed with thoughts like:

 It's hard to feel merry. It feels like the world is celebrating and I'm stuck on pause.

This should be our first Christmas together.

How can I feel happy when inside I'm so sad?

Nothing feels right. The whole world feels different.

When will I feel like me again?

I feel like I'm going to lose it.

How can I be around all these people when inside I feel like I'm screaming?

Doesn't anyone understand that I'm grieving?

I know what it's like and I can tell you that although you will never forget your baby, things will get easier for you in time. If your wounds are very raw right now, please know that your best is good enough. Just take everything one day at a time and if you need to "step away", you can.

Pray for strength. Pray for comfort. Ask the angels to surround you this Christmas and give you some peace. Take some deep breaths. What others may think about your loss really doesn't matter. You have every right to feel and in time you will heal.

Christmas was tough for me for a long time. Even now, when my baby would have been a 25 year old, I think of him, particularly on Christmas. I have an ornament hanging on the tree with his name on it. No, I will never forget my baby and I certainly don't expect you will. I hope you find some comfort in feeling your little one's spirit near you.

On the flip side, if you do find yourself smiling, or a feeling of peace and happiness surfaces, please allow yourself to feel that, too. It's a gift and even while you're grieving, you can still feel joy. As Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, "You can grieve and live at the same time." (That has stuck with me, especially since the loss of my mother.)

"Sometimes it's hard to feel merry. It feels like the world is celebrating and I'm stuck on pause. That's what grief does."- Ellen M. DuBois

My heart goes out to all who are grieving this Christmas and holiday season. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love and comfort to you,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.

Grief and Joy- A balancing act.

by Ellen DuBois on 11/29/16



"Dear God, Please help me focus on my blessings during the Christmas season. I know it's about much more than me and my losses. Sometimes, I get so consumed by the pain. Please help me balance my grief with the joy."- Ellen DuBois, MiscarriageHelp.com


 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.

Thanksgiving Blessings

by Ellen DuBois on 11/24/16



I read this quote by Charles Dickens and wanted to share it with you. It seems perfect on this Thanksgiving day.

 

Reflect on your present blessings, of which every man has many; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.- Charles Dickens

 

 

Wishing you and yours many blessings and my thoughts and prayers go out to all who are hurting in any way.

God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!

Ellen



Hello. My name is Ellen DuBois. Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. I am deeply sorry for your loss.



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