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You Are Always In My Heart Babyloss Remembrance Bracelet

by Ellen DuBois on 02/11/16

As the outreach has grown on this support site, I've become more and more grateful that we, women who have miscarried, have supported each other over the years. Reading your comments here, on MiscarriageHelp.com, and on my Miscarriage Help Facebook Page is one of the most meaningful and important things in my life. We all help each other. It doesn't matter whether you miscarried a month ago or it's been many years, (like me). We all need support and connection. We often crave validation of our loss because it's all too often swept under the rug.

It's important to me that I keep up with this site and how you're feeling. In addition, I work on my Hope Angel Bracelets all the time along with teaching my piano students.

My Hope Angel Bracelets came into existance because of you and this support site. I also make sure my book, I Never Held You, (about miscarriage, grief, healing and recovery) remains visible so people who need it can see it and hopefully, find some comfort when reading it.

In 2009, I was looking for a way to connect with more women who had miscarried and give them something tangible to serve as a reminder of their sweet babies. Some of the first bracelets I ever made were pink and blue Swarovski crystal with a baby feet/Remember charm accompanied by teardrop charm. I still make the same bracelet today, only it has evolved with more styles to choose from. But, the meaning is the same: miscarriage and babyloss support, remembrance and unity.

I know how much it means when someone orders a babyloss/remembrance Hope Angel Bracelet for a few reasons: 1. I suffered a miscarriage many years ago and know the pain first hand. 2. I remember how much I loved my necklace from Myforeverchild.com. I finally had something I could hold in my hands and wear in honor of my sweet baby. 3. I felt my loss was validated and my baby's brief but life changing stay with me forever touched my heart. I wanted the world to know my baby mattered as did my loss.

To those who have lived through the pain of miscarriage, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Hang on and please try to believe you are not alone. I know the angels have your back.

Here's one of my remembrance bracelets I carry in my store, Hope Angel Bracelets on etsy: "You Are Always In My Heart"


Click here to see the bracelet in my Etsy shop.

If you're looking for inspirational bracelets made by yours truly, please stop by Hope Angel Bracelets on Etsy and have a look at ALL the different styles, colors, sizes, designs and charms. I will gladly make a custom order if you want one for yourself or as a comforting gift for someone you know who has miscarried. Click here to visit Hope Angel Bracelets on etsy.

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Until I meet you on the other side.

by Ellen DuBois on 02/06/16



The Other Side
by Ellen M. DuBois

I feel you all the time.
In my heart, my soul, my mind.
It feels like an eternity,
since you went to the other side.

I know there's a bigger plan.
A plan I can not see.
It takes faith to walk this path,
without you here by me.

Faith has been my strength.
Belief has been my guide.
It will be that way until-
I meet you on the other side.

Ellen M. DuBois, 2014



Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Taking the Time to Grieve After Miscarriage

by Ellen DuBois on 01/29/16



Many years ago I miscarried. I remember feeling like it was the end of the world, at least the world as I knew it. In some respects I was right. My life did change after my miscarriage. Something like that changes you.

Anything traumatic, any kind of loss, changes you. I know your life goes on, but you live a new kind of normal. It may be a normal you don't like, as in the normal you experience after miscarriage. I mean, who wants that? Who wants to have to try to adjust after going through a pain so deep? Who wants to try to rebuild their lives after your dream is gone? Nobody wants to travel the road of grief, isolation, fear and pain after miscarriage.

There were days I wondered where I'd find the strength to take my next step.

That was a long time ago. I miscarried 25 years ago this fall. I can't even believe it's been that long. There's something about the fall that brings back so many of the feelings I experienced after my miscarriage. I think in part, it's because my baby would've been due right around Thanksgiving. I have spent my new normal, (24 years of it), wondering what Thanksgiving and Christmas and every single day would've been like had my baby survived. I don't wonder as much as I used to because so much time has gone by. I have healed. But a wound that deep leaves a scar - and that scar has remained.

My faith carried me, (still does), through the muddy and often scary road of grief. I remember clinging to my beliefs in God and in the afterlife like a lifejacket after I miscarried. I needed to believe my baby's spirit lived on. I still believe it does. Most recently, I have been wading through those muddy waters of grief after the loss of my mother this year. My faith that she lives on serves as another lifejacket- keeping me afloat. It's another new normal, adding to the one I've been living for the past 20 some odd years.

Forgive me if this post sounds a bit jumbled. Since the loss of my mother, my world has been jumbled and sometimes I come across that way. The same thing happened after my miscarriage. Perhaps, you're going through the same thing. Grief is not easy. Grief takes strength, courage, patience and faith. Faith that things won't hurt so much in time. A belief in something bigger than yourself. At least that's how it was and is for me.

There's something about September and the rest of the "ber" months that make me think about the baby I never held. The fall brings with it so many things I love and also reminds me of the loss I suffered all those years ago.

Every September, without fail, I look at parents waiting for their children at bus stops and wonder what it would be like to be doing the same thing. I don't know if that will ever go away. I can tell you the sting isn't what it used to be. It's not as severe. I suppose that comes with time. And God knows, I've had plenty of that.

I think no matter what you are going through, no matter what kind of loss you have experienced, be it miscarriage or the loss of a parent, you need to give yourself time. You need to give yourself space and time to just be. You may cry, you may not. The thing is, healing takes time and during that process you may find you need some peace and quiet. It's easy to busy yourself to the point of distraction. I've done it and still do sometimes. But, when I allow myself to be still and know, as I learned from Dr. Wayne Dyer years ago, healing is on a deeper and more lasting level.

To all of you who have suffered a miscarriage, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am deeply sorry for what you have experienced. I know it's not an easy road to travel. I want to assure you as best I can that you will get through it. You will step out of the darkness one day into the light. Things may look a bit different than they did before. That's called your new normal and you will be okay. Just give it time. Just give you time. You are worth it.

 

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Miscarriage Stories, News, Awareness, Research

by Ellen DuBois on 01/26/16

Miscarriage: My Arms Never Held You, My Heart Always Will

by Ellen DuBois on 01/25/16



""My arms never held you, but my heart always will."- Ellen M. DuBois Sending all of you my love, thoughts and prayers. Ellen

I think of the years that have passed since I lost my baby to miscarriage. One thing comes to mind: My arms my have never held my baby, but my heart sure has. I've never forgotten my little one and have felt a connection to him since the start. That connection has grown over time. It's deeper now because the raw pain I experienced right after I miscarried has diminished. It took time for that to happen- quite a long time. When the pain wasn't as raw as an open wound (with salt dumped on it), my spiritual connection grew stronger with my little one because I was better able to feel it. There weren't as many tears, thus I was more open to sensing my baby's presence with me.

Not to get too deep, but that's how it's been for me. Over the years, I have not once forgotten the baby I loved but never held. However, I've been keenly aware that we are connected by the heart, and that's where I'll always hold him.

My thoughts and prayers go out to each one of you who has had to live through this. Please know you're not alone in your journey after miscarriage and your loss and your grief are just as real as your baby and not to be dismissed.

Love and Light, Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Miscarriage Support, Articles, News, Stories

by Ellen DuBois on 01/24/16

Kisses From Heaven

by Ellen DuBois on 01/23/16



Just checking in on everyone. Be safe if you're in the path of the snow/blizzard, and know I'm always thinking of you and sending you love and prayers. Here's a thought for today: Sometimes, when a snowflake touches my nose, it's like a kiss from Heaven. I love you my sweet baby, my mother and everyone I miss who lives on the other side. Thank you for reminding me, in different ways, that you're with me and are okay.- Ellen



Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Miscarriage: Words Can Hurt- Words Can Comfort.

by Ellen DuBois on 01/21/16



 

Please be aware of what you say to a woman who has miscarried. Words can hurt- words can comfort. If you're unsure of what to say, "I'm sorry for your loss" validates her loss, her grief, her baby.- Ellen DuBois, Miscarriagehelp.com

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



Sweet Baby of Mine, I'll Never Forget You

by Ellen DuBois on 01/12/16



"Sweeet baby of mine, I will never forget you. I could never forget you. You were with me so briefly, but changed my life forever."- Ellen M. DuBois

This is so true. I miscarried so long ago, (almost 25 years), and have never forgotten the baby I loved, dreamed about- but never held. It's a love so strong that even after all this time, it hasn't diminished.

In some ways, it's grown. I feel my child around me and the spiritual connection we share has strengthed. That may sound a little strange to some, but not to me.

I feel it- in my heart, soul, in my gut.

That's the thing about loving and losing a baby to miscarriage. There's a bond of love so strong nothing can take away from it.

When I first miscarried, the pain was too raw for me to feel like I do now. I had so much grieving and healing to do. There were so many ups and downs I had to experience before I finally began to feel my baby's presence around me.

My thoughts and prayers to all who are hurting right now. I am deeply sorry for your loss. Please know you're not alone and you will get through this in your own time and in your own way.

Love and Light,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.



For Now, It's Raining

by Ellen DuBois on 01/10/16



"The rain somehow comforts me today. It's as if the sky is crying with me. I know the sun will be back, just like I know I'll be okay. For now, it's raining."

- Ellen DuBois

I think many people feel this way when they are grieving the loss of a baby- the loss of anyone they love.

Love, Light and Comfort to you,

Ellen

Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

Note: Some people find it difficult to post comments here because it's not very clear how to do it. Just hit the "comment" link under any post. I'll get your comment and respond. If it's easier, please email me. ellen@miscarriagehelp.com
Love & comfort to you, Ellen

The MiscarriageHelp.com Daily- paper.li- by Ellen DuBois. Updated daily with a curated selection of articles, blog posts, videos and photos. Click here. Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.





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"MiscarriageHelp.com is a support site for women and their families who have suffered the pain, loss and grief after miscarriage. I respond personally to each email and post and have been doing so since 2006. It's an outreach to me, as I try to connect and support those who have walked the often lonely road after miscarriage. Why? I don't want anyone to feel as alone as I did some twenty years ago after my own miscarriage." -Love & comfort to you, Ellen, - Ellen M. DuBois
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